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03Oct

Finding Your Passion and Purpose in life

On a very regular basis, I talk to folks that are struggling to find their purpose and passion in life. They may have a flood of ideas in mind of things that they could potentially be good at, but are afraid to take the steps forward, in making a dream a possible reality. These are the questions I often hear: ‘What if this doesn’t work out?’ ‘What if I fail’? ‘What if I don’t like it?’ ‘What if it is not what I thought it was going to be’?

The thoughts then turn into fears, and the fears lead to lack of actions. The way that I see it, our brains can be our ultimate weapon, and what inevitably prevents us from finding that true purpose and passion. There are essentially three(3) steps to bringing dreams into reality:

  1. Just do. Stop thinking and just get out there and do new things. I am astounded how many times I talk to folks who have always wanted to try something new yet are so full of fear of it not working out, that they never do it. Want to learn to rock climb for example? Dream of maybe one day instructing others in learning? Get out there and do it.
     
  2. What do you love? Stop asking yourself what you might be good at, and what may bring in a healthy income, and instead, ask yourself, ‘what do I absolutely love doing?’ You may be surprised. When you get inside your heart, to determine what you love, that drives the passion, and can inspire amazing ideas. Love animals for instance? Feel like there is something lacking in society that could be of benefit to animals? Start brainstorming. Find the gap, inspired by what you love, and stop worrying about it not working out. Aim from the heart on this one.
     
  3. Know that you may develop more than 1 passion/purpose We are all diverse, with diverse interests, and desires. Stop thinking that there is 1 specific passion, and only 1. This is extremely limiting and is often what causes burnout in a job or career. Using myself for example: I could never be 100% solely invested in my career as my only passion/purpose. I always tell people that there is a reason I have survived nearly a quarter of a century in this field, when the average burnout rate is 5 years or less. I diversified myself and have other hobbies and activities that help me stay well rounded, as well as a side gig job that is completely different than my main hat. My point? Don’t limit yourself, and get pigeon holed into that 1 thing that you are meant to do.

***Please note, that if anxiety and depression are placing a hold on you, and preventing you from being able to engage in the above 3 action steps, it is time to contact a professional therapist or counselor such as myself, that can help you break down the barriers that are standing in your way to take these steps***

~ Tricia Stehle, LMSW
   Shores of Hope, LLC

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